Our Framework

Good morning!

I have been working to create a one page visual of the framework I presented a couple of weeks ago. Here it is (with small expansions in some places!) for your reference and to download. Remember, within each area, we use Declarative Language and Co-Regulation in different ways, but each interacts with, and complements, the other.

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Below is each area, along with related resources linked in, so you can dive in wherever makes the most sense for you.

1. Skill Building: What you work with your learner on is always up to you. And it is possible to work on more than one thing at a time. But it will be helpful to identify & break down one area at a time, so you know what you are going for, and can observe and feel progress over time.

   This includes:

   • Deciding which skill you want to work on with your learner

   • Finding Competent-Authentic-Contingent Roles within that skill

   • Adjusting Your Level of Support as you go

2. In-the-Moment Tools: While working to build new skills, we need tools in the moment to help our learners regulate when emotions are escalating, to set thoughtful limits when this is called for, and to help with positive forward momentum when under time constraints.

   These include:

   • Declarative statements that mirror or validate

   • Silence and processing time

   • Identifying Competent -Authentic-Contingent Roles in the moment

   • Thoughtful limit setting

   • Declarative statements that model self-advocacy

   • Declarative statements & Co-Regulatory actions that support interoceptive awareness

3. Constructing a Thoughtful Narrative Over Time: We are creating a narrative with our learner that will develop over time. This means, we are planning ahead when possible, reflecting back to decide how and when to change things up, and making a point to store important memories in the present. Often we will include our learner in this process, but sometimes it is OUR planning and reflection that is most important.

   This includes:

   • Our understanding and use of Episodic Memory to help spotlight patterns

   • Using DL + processing time to remember together, plan ahead as a team, and store important memories in the present

   • Using DL to build self-awareness, which will lead to self-advocacy

   • Using CR to establish memories as a team across the past, present and future

   • Using DL + CR to strengthen your emotional connection over time

I hope you find this framework and visual helpful!

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