I know people visiting this page may be learning about declarative language for the first time! Below are two articles that give an overview of what declarative language is, to get you started on your journey of discovering how powerful it can be when we change up our communication style to be one that is positive and inviting…. keep reading

If you are newer to co-regulation and declarative language or just now thinking about giving this new communication style a try, I want you to be successful. Here are 𝟒 tips… keep reading

In listening to parent stories, one consistent theme rang through from caregivers: challenging behaviors happen, and it is hard to know the best way to respond! This helped me remember that the 𝐟𝐢𝐠𝐡𝐭/𝐟𝐥𝐢𝐠𝐡𝐭/𝐟𝐫𝐞𝐞𝐳𝐞 response to 𝐮𝐧𝐜𝐞𝐫𝐭𝐚𝐢𝐧𝐭𝐲, which I discuss in Chapter 2 of 𝐷𝑒𝑐𝑙𝑎𝑟𝑎𝑡𝑖𝑣𝑒 𝐿𝑎𝑛𝑔𝑢𝑎𝑔𝑒 𝐻𝑎𝑛𝑑𝑏𝑜𝑜𝑘, is one of the most important ideas to understand.

What does this mean?… keep reading

I want to talk about more direct language. This may be language for our concrete learners, or it may be language for individuals who prefer us to not beat around the bush (and would like us to tell them what they need to know in the most direct way possible). I want you to know that you can most certainly use declarative language, or a combination of declarative language and co-regulation, to be direct... keep reading

We always want to remember that kids are not ignoring us and not being willful. There is always a good reason for the breakdown, and we must give kids the benefit of the doubt…. keep reading

I have heard how many of you have made your own cheat sheets for declarative language (awesome!), and others have asked if I have one to share. I hadn’t yet made one, but there is no time like the present, right? So… here is a cheat sheet for you to download, print… keep reading

I want to keep talking to you about how to move from get to GIVE because this is the foundation of all that follows… keep reading

It is always important to listen to kids and use declarative language to help them voice their concerns and problem solve when faced with a challenge. But sometimes, our kids need something different. They need us, as parents, caregivers, teachers, therapists, adults in their lives... to set firm limits so they stay safe… keep reading

I hear this question a lot! Your child’s emotions are escalating (and maybe yours are too)… keep reading

I’m realizing it is important to have guidelines related to declarative language and co-regulation use all in one place. Whether these tools are new ideas to you, or you’ve been using them for a while, these guiding principles can help us all stay on track as we strive to create learning environments that support growth and positive engagement for individuals of all ages… keep reading

In this clip, I model using declarative language to manage screen time,. navigate a small disagreement, strengthen episodic memory… keep reading

I noticed a lot of you liked last week's post on how to change up your DL statements! Here are some more ideas… keep reading

Here is one possible path you might see, as you get comfortable with declarative language… keep reading