Coming soon - Co-Regulation Handbook

Exciting news! I have finished my rough draft and sent it to my editor. I can’t wait to share Co-Regulation Handbook with you soon. I wanted to give you a sneak peek of Chapters 1-5 topics, and an excerpt from 𝐶ℎ𝑎𝑝𝑡𝑒𝑟 1: 𝑊ℎ𝑦 𝐴𝑟𝑒 𝑊𝑒 𝐻𝑒𝑟𝑒 (𝐴𝑔𝑎𝑖𝑛)? Enjoy and have a great week!

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As with declarative language, I learned first about co-regulation when training to become an Relationship Development Intervention® (RDI) consultant. And, as with declarative language, once I understood it –what it looked like, what it felt like, and its purpose, it changed everything I did. Declarative language is a way of speaking, and co-regulation is a way of 𝑏𝑒𝑖𝑛𝑔.

Co-regulation establishes a shared focus of attention with a communication partner – in other words – we know we are thinking about the same thing at the same time. As a result, it helps us feel certain of our connection in the moment. When two people with different social learning styles are together, there is often a disconnect between what each person is attending to. We might be together physically, but we are thinking about different things. Additionally, sometimes we are not together in thought because the child’s pace is faster than ours, or because our pace is faster than theirs.

Understanding and practicing co-regulation helps us stay together in our thoughts and actions. It works on maintaining a unified pace so that no one is left behind. It grounds us in what we are doing together right now and lays the foundation for all that follows – authentic social connections, reciprocity, conversation that is mutually meaningful, and ultimately, an understanding of our community and world.

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Have a great week!